Author: alwaysabelle

33. Fox hunter, eventer, carriage driver. Self employed. Married and have basically a zoo at home.

8:53 July Rain

I’m sitting in the barn isle, drinking a beer. A good beer. A beer from a 6-pack I bought on the way to the farm. I’m sitting in the barn isle enjoying the gentle rain. It’s cooled down to 78°. Far better than the 98 with



I can’t believe this whole fucking thing didn’t save. It was the best thing I’ve ever written.

35 and one half is totally my jam

Things I’ve done for the first time at 35

This literally all happened this week:

  • Went to my first protest march. It was to oppose the forced birth bill signed by Gov. Kemp in May. #DoBetterGA organized it. I reconnected with a Highschool friend. It was downright moving to be part of something so big
  • Restarted Yoga in a serious way. I am so WEAK. It’s astounding considering how much I think I do. This was an allignment class. I thought I was going to die in the first 15 min, but we were just quickly getting our muscles warmed up. I am pitiful, but the class was great
  • Made cabonara. It’s a bit flavorless and scrambled egg with fancy French cheese instead of parmesan, and deli ham instead of bacon. But not bad & definitely etable for literally figuring out what to make for dinner and using only stuff in the house
  • Holy shit I’m writing something.

Plea from a volunteer coordinator

Horse shows NEED volunteers to function. I could end this right here with that simple statement. It’s true. It’s concise. But as a volunteer coordinator for one of the few farms in SW Georgia large enough to hold a horse trial almost every month (including a semi-annual 3* event) recognized dressage shows and a schooling show almost every other available weekend, I KNOW saying (begging, pleading, incentivizing) we NEED you is not enough. We are short on volunteers almost every show. This literally makes me cry a couple times a year. And i’m not a pretty crier.

Horse shows are expensive (“duh” statement #2) Not just to compete in, but to put on. NO ONE is getting rich off of this, guys. One way facilities and shows counter act their expenses is to ask (beg, plead, incentivize) for volunteers. Sure, the jobs that take a judges card , or training courses are paid positions, but EVERYONE ELSE YOU SEE is a volunteer.  Let me list them really quickly for you for a Horse Trial, since that’s the most encompassing:

  • Dressage warm-up steward
    • Do you want to check your watch every 2 min while warming up your dragon? I didn’t think so
  • Dressage in-gate
    • ‘Which ring am i in? It’s test “A”, right?’
  • Bit/spur/bonnet check
    • IDK why anyone wares a bonnet for dressage. There are no bugs in that ring and we’re just going to make you take it off
  • Scribes
    • Let me just tell you how sick I am of looking for scribes. I’m still not quite sure why there’s not a literal waiting list for this position. The ONLY good thing about no one wanting the job is that I GET to have that job.
  • Cross Country warm up steward
    • again with the watch checking, which you have set to your xc OT, so it’s not doing you much good in this department
  • Cross Country Start (have a great ride!)
  • Cross Country Finish (well done!)
  • Cross Country Jump Judges
    • We seriously need 12-18 people for this. Watching 3 fences simultaneously as the course loops back to a vantage point is only possible for someone who has harnessed their ADD powers for good. And when the course doesn’t lend itself to that, we chase you in the quad or gator. Because unless we’re implementing and following an honesty policy, we need to make sure you jump all the things.
  • Show jumping warm up steward
    • “So, I have 3 horses in this division and they’re placed 2nd,5th&6th. can I maybe go early with the first one and late with the last one so I can warm them up? You’ll keep track of all that an let me know when I’m 5 away and 2 away, right?”
  • Show jumping in-gate.
    • “In gate to announcer. I know your sheet says #86 is going at 2:45, but there’s a conflict and she’s going at noon. OK thanks.
  • Show jumping crew –  Options without these people:
    • start leaves their post to fix every fence the over-horsed person in front of you crashed, meaning we’re getting behind in the schedule, which means it’s now interfering with your xc ride on another horse or coaching a student or taking sale pictures for your friend in dressage
    • The judge is picking up poles. see above about how this delays the day, and it irritates the judge.
    • You get off and fix your own course before you start, because someone has to do it. Or not and you’re dodging “ground poles”
  • Score runner, because you want to see where you are before 7PM on Sunday, right?

This is for ONE WEEKEND. Can you imagine what your entry would be if we paid all these people? And you think horse showing is expensive now.

The final thing you may not realize, is that my hands as a coordinator are tied as to how much I can offer to make you want to do this (because the reasons above aren’t enough and you don’t want to help out your fellow competitors/sport – really need a sarcasm font here). We give vouchers. Vouchers you can use to pay an ENTIRE show entry with. Vouchers that let you come XC school for nothing.  We also give lunch, drinks and snacks. We give you all this, for a few hours of your time. Hours you’re at the facility anyway. We will absolutely work around ride times or cover for you. How an we cover you when want to run over and watch your kid jump the water complex instead of the train carts your stationed at. WE GET IT and will make that happen.

Guys, we understand volunteer fatigue. We understand you want a weekend for the beach or to show (I show too. I get it)  or to lay around and do nothing or go hiking or stand on your head. But if everyone (hell, if MORE people) would volunteer, we wouldn’t be so desperate and the shows would go that much more smoothly.

To wrap this up, I do want to say thank you to the teenagers and parents and kids and husbands and boyfriends who come almost every weekend and do these jobs. A few of which are very new at this this and have been stellar. Volunteers who get berated by competitors who are stressed about their rides then are too busy to come apologize later or volunteer themselves. You guys, there are about 12 of you (12! did the rest of you read how many people this takes?!), make this sport happen and ensure we can keep shows of all levels in our area. Thank you.


December birthdays and resolutions

Another thing to hate about a December birthday. I firmly believe a year n someones life is more important that the earth’s trip around the sun.Everyone is on a personal journey & therefore it one should make “resolutions” saying, ” when I’m 33 I will…” as apposed to “in 2017 i will…” It’s so much more personal to start it on YOUR day. That’s how I see it anyhow. However, when you have a December birthday, it’s hard to sick to this way of thinking. If my resolution is to start getting up a 5 AM (which one of mine is, actually) , then  go to CA for a week. to visit in-laws. I can’t very well get up at 5 AM here. I haven’t done it long enough to be in a routine about it yet, then the time change, + then  what do I do? at home I Pump, catch up on emails, start breakfast, put away dishes, then it’s usually about 7 & time to wake up the baby & the rest of the house. Here… Well, let’s get into the excuses. Some of which are valid.

  • The baby’s not sleeping because we’re in a new place. +We’re having to co-sleep (I’m so against this But,  grandma got him a rocker to sleep in. this doesn’t work AT ALL for m tummy sleeping little boy) So I’ve been basically  cat napping through the night because I’m terrified I’m going to smoosh the baby. I’m staying i that bed as long as possible.
  • WTF am I supposed to do for 3 hours? no dishes to put away. I don’t want to wake anyone up, so making breakfast is out. It would be cold by the time the household got up anyway.
  • Working out (another resolution) is also out. no tennis shoes.
  • The baby won’t sleep.

Anyway, you get the idea. Also eating healthy, a third resolution, really, at the holidays, at my mother in laws house? I don’t think so.She buys margarine for Pete sake. do you understand how long it’s been since I’ve had margerine? eew. Says the girl who downed a Starbucks frappachino like it was her job this evening.

SO when I get back, there’s a instagram quote: discipline

Cheesy and basic AF, I know. But for real. this is true about much, much more than just fitness.

My final resolution is to attempt to be done, or at the very least wrapping up, by 4PM EVERY DAY. It’s insane that I get up at 7 and get home at 9. I know I’m running my own business and working in the office, but really. If I can’t be at least wrapping up and on my way home by 4, I’ve planned too much. I thing I have a VERY bad habit of doing. I’m hoping limiting my time will force me to plan better & leave me energy to plan for the next day because I’m not so tired I simply fall into bed.

This much-needed vacation, although making it difficult to start these resolutions, has given me the space to think of them and what I need to do to achieve them. Vacations are good. especially when you think you’re too busy to take one.

OMG I’m writing!

Holy Hell. It’s been an age since I’ve written. Between the new baby, trying to keep up with the house (more on that in a min), the horses, my husband. Just wow.

In late September, I gave birth to a 7Lb 11 oz baby boy. He’s perfect. I haven’t done the first thing for his baby book, but I’ve taken a million pictures. It’s crazy

This house. Jesus Christ this house. I’m not sure what my husband does all day. other than make a mess.

OK I finally get the house to myself and I can’t even concentrate enough to write. I want to either register horses for shows, create adds for the horses I have (this is a sale barn) or go the fuck to bed.  I think I’ll do the latter. Here’s a picture of a baby and of JP Oct 29 at Chatt to hold you over.